About Me

 After resigning from a high demand group that I was born into and remained a member of for 45 years, I sought to find out what was and wasn’t healthy in any group, whether it be religious, social, political, theological, social media, etc. I started realizing that the group I was involved with had significant problems with its truth claims about eight years before I left, but it took me eight years to realize it also was not healthy for me and to pull myself out. What I learned from this constant study in the three months following my formal resignation, was that there were basic forms of unethical persuasion that had completely permeated all aspects of my life. As I read every book I could find on the subject (over 25), I had this sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach because many of my children were still in the group and anything I said contrary to the group’s beliefs could or would be considered “anti.”    

I wanted my children to learn the primary, repetitious principles that were common in ALL unhealthy groups according to the experts and their decades of research and findings. My reading and research took a great deal of time and I could not find any child/teen books written on this topic. So I made Book 1 with my children. I let them help illustrate it and copied it for each child still living at home. I felt that even if some of them decided to stay in the group, which has unhealthy group dynamics, at least they would know what was and wasn’t healthy if they began to experience what I had experienced. The concepts also lend themselves to today’s topics and issues in group politics, group social media, racism, sexism, and all other sorts of “isms” in our culture and education. I hope that knowing these top ten unethical persuasion methods will give everyone the information and knowledge to critically assess any group they choose to associate with now and in the future. The information contained in my Value Based Parenting Series is what I want to keep from my former group that was good, but also what I want to teach new, especially on unethical persuasion, US vs THEM thinking, and what choice really means.

 While a member of this group with unhealthy dynamics, I found myself losing my voice more and more and healthy sharing of perspectives was not encouraged or really allowed. I found myself losing my voice with my friends. I found myself losing my voice with some members of my family and my own children. I didn't know about the principles of unethical persuasion at the time. Once I was educated on these principles, I FOUND MY VOICE. It's important that adults, teens and children know what is healthy and unhealthy in groups. Whether you speak from within your group for healthy change or you resign and speak from without, it is our RIGHT to have a VOICE! It is my hope that this website can serve as a source to bring all humans closer by teaching critical thinking skills and eliminating US vs. THEM thinking in the rising generation. We are all one! We can look past our differences and remain united as friends and family. No matter what you believe, RELATIONSHIPS are more important than ideology.